Are You Nervous? So What…

“But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.” – 2 Chronicles 15:7

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Want to know a secret? Sometimes I get nervous. Ok, it’s really not a secret especially since everyone I know has been nervous at some point in their life.  Sometimes being nervous is a good thing because it can push you to perform better. Other times it can be crippling, stopping all progress. Rocket does a great job of helping me see the bigger picture when I’m nervous. If I get anxious about a meeting, he calmly asks, “What’s the worst that can happen?” I frantically try to think of something that justifies my anxiety, to which he simply responds, “so what?”

For example:

  • This person can’t help you with your project….So what? Look for another person.
  • You don’t get into the school of your dreams….So what? Make the most out of the one you do get into.
  • You don’t get the job….So what? Look for another opportunity.

Lately, I’ve been developing a new video concept that I will eventually share with you. I’m still in the planning stages, but I remember talking about all things I wanted to do with the project and at times it seemed a little daunting. My first step was to email a few people and ask if I could interview them. Seems easy enough, but I stalled…for weeks! At first I told myself that I was too busy, but I knew that wasn’t true. My next excuse was being nervous that they would say no, but I knew my husband would once again ask, “so what,” and I would figure out a backup plan. 

It wasn’t until I was about to press send on the email, that I realized what was truly holding me back. It wasn’t my busy schedule or the fear of rejection. Instead it was the realization that something I had dreamed about for so long was no longer just an idea to talk about. By involving other people, it was becoming a reality that I would need to follow through on despite all of the unknowns (like heading into a jungle). I’d love to say that this epiphany solved ALL my problems, but in reality there are still a few things that I am hesitating on (time to wrap up this post and start working on them)!

I have found that these tips help me move past the hesitation trap and into action:

  1. Comfort Zones – Challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone on a regular basis. This will help you practice moving past hesitation whether its asking for an interview or negotiating a raise. Practice makes perfect.
  2. Goals – Don’t just write down your goals, but also describe why each one is important to you. If something is important enough, you will make time for it. 
  3. Daily Routine – Create a daily routine, scheduling time during your day to work on each of your important goals. Having a structured routine leads to action and limits distractions.  
  4. Deadlines – Set realistic deadlines to accomplish action steps. Don’t get frustrated if you don’t hit them, but keep working.
  5. Accountability – Find an accountability partner that you trust to check in on your progress and nudge you if needed (I’m available for the first 3 people who contact me).

Side note, I recently updated my post about things to watch out for while traveling! Click here to check it out!

Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @pintoeverafter for more updates throughout the week!

  1. Thank you for sharing – this was really helpful to read, as I can totally relate!

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